Early in my freshman year, my dad asked me if there were lots of Latinos at school. I wanted to say, “Pa, I’m one of the only Latinos in most of my classes. The other brown faces I see mostly are the landscapers’. I think of you when I see them sweating in the morning sun. I remember you were a landscaper when you first came to Illinois in the 1950s. And look, Pa! Now I’m in college!”
But I didn’t.
I just said, “No, Pa. There’s a few Latinos, mostly Puerto Rican, few Mexicans. But all the landscapers are Mexican.”
My dad responded, “¡Salúdelos, m’ijo!”
So when I walked by the Mexican men landscaping each morning, I said, “Buenos días.”
Recently, I realized what my dad really meant. I remembered learning the Mexican, or Latin American, tradition of greeting people when one enters a room. In my Mexican family, my parents taught me to be “bien educado” by greeting people who were in a room already when I entered. The tradition puts the responsibility of the person who arrives to greet those already there. If I didn’t follow the rule as a kid, my parents admonished me with a back handed slap on my back and the not-so-subtle hint: “¡Saluda!”
I caught myself tapping my 8-year-old son’s back the other day when he didn’t greet one of our friends: “Adrian! ¡Saluda!”
However, many of my white colleagues over the years followed a different tradition of ignorance. “Maleducados,” ol’ school Mexican grandmothers would call them.
But this Mexican tradition is not about the greeting—it’s about the acknowledgment. Greeting people when you enter a room is about acknowledging other people’s presence and showing them that you don’t consider yourself superior to them.
When I thought back to the conversation between my dad and me in 1990, I realized that my dad was not ordering me to greet the Mexican landscapers with a “Good morning.”
Instead, my father wanted me to acknowledge them, to always acknowledge people who work with their hands like he had done as a farm worker, a landscaper, a mechanic. My father with a 3rd grade education wanted me to work with my mind but never wanted me to think myself superior because I earned a college degree and others didn’t.
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Why men should at the very least be involved in the conversation.
Landslides and flash floods triggered by heavy monsoon rains have killed nearly 300 people in large swaths of northern India and Pakistan, officials said Sunday.
Five days of incessant rains in Indian-controlled Kashmir have left at least 120 people dead in the region’s worst flooding in more than five decades, submerging hundreds of villages and triggering landslides, officials said. In neighboring Pakistan, more than 160 people have died and thousands of homes have collapsed, with an official saying the situation was becoming a “national emergency.”
Rescuers in both countries were using helicopters and boats to try to reach tens of thousands of people stranded in their homes as floodwaters rose and submerged many villages. (AP)
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hey guys, i would really appreciate if you could take the time to read and raise awareness abt the floods in kashmir. they have been devastating, and the death toll has climbed to over 400 by now. many people are still in need of rescuing
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send money and supplies, tell your friends and family, blog abt it, help in any way you can
HERE WE GO OKAY GUYS
Storms like this batter many parts of Asia all the time and it’s terrible and scary and EVERYBODY NEEDS TO HELP OUT
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Why White people are not coming out against the racism in Ferguson. He is dead on.
I could chill with this dude.
I want to thank this man for telling some serious truth. And he didn’t do it in a way that makes him come off as disingenuous. It’s not patronizing. It’s just honest. We don’t ever get that much out of the people who consider themselves “progressive”. He definitely has the right perspective on it. Plus, I just really like that he’s fired up about it. That gives me hope.
This is the only type of white dude I could ever seriously date.This was disturbingly honest. If you are white and your not this dude specifically, I dont fuck with you.
he had me as soon as he genuinely said “ya feel me”.
He went the fuck OFFF